Dear Cammy,
I want to share some information with you that my mom told me. Those goofy/lookin boys you are going to know as kids, the ones all the girls overlook because of how weird they are, their weight, their height, their smell (although, admittedly, that doesn't always get better), or their acne, those boys are going to be golden when you hit 30 (some may even out by the end of high school, but that is another topic). I want you to know, I can not wait till 30, because I am going to be surrounded by some beautiful and amazing men.
I talk to these guys all the time. A couple of them are HUGE deals in your life (Yes, tomorrow is Friday and Bart will be here), but I know stuff about them your sweet little eyes can't comprehend. Things that they may not have enjoyed from their childhood have defined them as amazing men. Men that I am blessed to know. Men that I am comfortable letting be a part of your life. Little one, those goofy boys that girls will tease or run away from, be their friend. When you hit thirty, you will be surrounded by the Princes among men. I know thirty is inconceivable to you, but I promise it isn't old. I am looking at thirty in a couple years, and amazed at how very young I am... but that is a different talk. Anyways...
You know that kid that just moved from another state? The one with a little extra weight who is very shy, ok a bit socially awkward? When he grows up, he will be your saving grace when you husband is at work, and you have a screaming, sick baby. For the next two years he always brings a spare shirt, and never complains as your children spit up on him time and time again. When he hits 27, he decides he is tired of being over weight. Without posting every pound, he slowly and with determination drops his excess weight. He also promptly brings over his "fat pants" to donate to your husband who for the first time in his life, gained weight. You may not always understand him, and he may not understand you, but he will be there when you need him. That kid is Ian.
You know that other overweight boy? The one who is always cracking jokes and being the funny guy? The one all the girls will put in the friend zone? When he grows up, he becomes one of the best Dad's EVER. He grows up, gets in shape and blossoms into a beautiful man. There is a saying (a horrible one but mostly true) that someone has "fat kid personality", those usually are the best kinds of people. The are nurturers because so often they were left out. They have no idea how beautiful they are because so often they were over looked. They know how to crack a joke, because that was the only way they could get noticed. Yes, that "fat kid" that no one pays attention to will grow up to be Tony. He may be a little flighty, but one heck of a man. He is one of your Daddies best friends. I promise to drag him and his family around more.
Or that kid who talks funny? Maybe he stutters or he just sounds funny? The one that kids make fun of for being dumb. Sometimes he fights too much, or some times he just can't sit still... He isn't dumb, it turns out he is quite brilliant. He grows up to go to school for something that takes way more smarts than I have... When there is a freak accident and you have to rush all of your kids to the E.R., he goes out of his way to try and cook a meal (but also buys lunchables just in case) so you and your kids have food when you are exhausted and leaving the hospital. That is such a huge thing for someone to do, especially for someone who doesn't have kids, and who is an EMT and every extra second off work is dedicated to school and sleep. Yet, despite his crazy schedule, he takes time to try and help you. That kid is Sean, someone I wish you could know better.
And Lord help me. You know that new kid who is"Hot but a stoner"? All the girls are falling all over themselves for him. You know better (because you are my daughter), but he just wants to fit in. You know that he could be so much more. Part of me wants to tell you to stay away, the other part can't because I always hung out with the stoners (less drama). He just wants to fit in and is going about it in all the wrong ways. Don't worry, just like the rest of this ragtag group, he grows up. He becomes an Army Ranger. He just became a daddy (Yes, he still married one of the pretty girls). He may have a crazy, busy life, but he is as loyal as they come. When the world starts crumbling, he is there. He moves mountains to be there for your family. 40 cheeseburgers of mountains. He gets on the floor and plays with your boy like it is the best thing in the world. He is Justin. Yes, your teenager.
Don't forget that quiet boy. The one who sits in class and doesn't say a word? If you are anything like me (so far, poor thing, you are) you are going to gravitate to him. You see that there may be a hurt there. He doesn't say much, because unlike most people, he thinks before he speaks. He is wise beyond his years. There is a strength in the quiet ones. Try, sweet one, to learn from them. You two are so very different and lead very different lives, but he becomes one of the best friends you and your husband ever had. The nights where you are afraid, and your husband is at work, the quiet one will talk to you until your husband gets home. Even if it is just the wind blowing, he holds you up until your husband can take over. He also holds your husband up when you can't. He spends every weekend with your family, being the Uncle to your children, that every kid needs. He has walked through the flames with you. He fights for your marriage (for both sides), when you and your husband feel like there isn't any fight left. That quiet boy is one of the strongest men you will ever meet. He is Bart.
One last one, Sweet Thing, one last boy. That small, loud, feisty boy. I know you can't stand his type. He is always in trouble for cracking jokes. Rumor has it he has slept with every girl in the neighborhood. There are also rumors about drugs you didn't even know existed. He is loud, obnoxious, and overwhelming. It seems like he is always doing something for attention. Yeah, I know the type. All those things are cries for help. Don't worry, this boy also grows up and gave up the "fast, free, fun life" to keep a girl and her son off the street and falls in love. Love is a crazy thing. He fell in love with a girl who hated parties and drugs, so do you know what he did? He quit. He gave up all those things for a girl and her son. He becomes a strong, stable, hard working, deeply loving, loyal, husband and father. He is the most incredible man that I know. Darling, I am honored to tell you that he is your Daddy and he is my hero in so many ways.
Every single one of those men are worth loving. I would be more than thrilled to know that you found someone like any of the men I mentioned above. I have some bad news for you also... most the "hot guys" from high school... Stay the "hot guys from high school". Most of them are stuck in their "glory days". They get fat, drunk, and even more obnoxious. Staying drunk and living in the past is not nice to anyone (another good lesson for you). The point is this... Who you are the first 18 years of your life, does not always define who you will be for the rest of it. Those boys that may not be popular now, will be the ones who make the world amazing.
Yup, 30 is going to be amazing.
I want to share some information with you that my mom told me. Those goofy/lookin boys you are going to know as kids, the ones all the girls overlook because of how weird they are, their weight, their height, their smell (although, admittedly, that doesn't always get better), or their acne, those boys are going to be golden when you hit 30 (some may even out by the end of high school, but that is another topic). I want you to know, I can not wait till 30, because I am going to be surrounded by some beautiful and amazing men.
I talk to these guys all the time. A couple of them are HUGE deals in your life (Yes, tomorrow is Friday and Bart will be here), but I know stuff about them your sweet little eyes can't comprehend. Things that they may not have enjoyed from their childhood have defined them as amazing men. Men that I am blessed to know. Men that I am comfortable letting be a part of your life. Little one, those goofy boys that girls will tease or run away from, be their friend. When you hit thirty, you will be surrounded by the Princes among men. I know thirty is inconceivable to you, but I promise it isn't old. I am looking at thirty in a couple years, and amazed at how very young I am... but that is a different talk. Anyways...
You know that kid that just moved from another state? The one with a little extra weight who is very shy, ok a bit socially awkward? When he grows up, he will be your saving grace when you husband is at work, and you have a screaming, sick baby. For the next two years he always brings a spare shirt, and never complains as your children spit up on him time and time again. When he hits 27, he decides he is tired of being over weight. Without posting every pound, he slowly and with determination drops his excess weight. He also promptly brings over his "fat pants" to donate to your husband who for the first time in his life, gained weight. You may not always understand him, and he may not understand you, but he will be there when you need him. That kid is Ian.
You know that other overweight boy? The one who is always cracking jokes and being the funny guy? The one all the girls will put in the friend zone? When he grows up, he becomes one of the best Dad's EVER. He grows up, gets in shape and blossoms into a beautiful man. There is a saying (a horrible one but mostly true) that someone has "fat kid personality", those usually are the best kinds of people. The are nurturers because so often they were left out. They have no idea how beautiful they are because so often they were over looked. They know how to crack a joke, because that was the only way they could get noticed. Yes, that "fat kid" that no one pays attention to will grow up to be Tony. He may be a little flighty, but one heck of a man. He is one of your Daddies best friends. I promise to drag him and his family around more.
Or that kid who talks funny? Maybe he stutters or he just sounds funny? The one that kids make fun of for being dumb. Sometimes he fights too much, or some times he just can't sit still... He isn't dumb, it turns out he is quite brilliant. He grows up to go to school for something that takes way more smarts than I have... When there is a freak accident and you have to rush all of your kids to the E.R., he goes out of his way to try and cook a meal (but also buys lunchables just in case) so you and your kids have food when you are exhausted and leaving the hospital. That is such a huge thing for someone to do, especially for someone who doesn't have kids, and who is an EMT and every extra second off work is dedicated to school and sleep. Yet, despite his crazy schedule, he takes time to try and help you. That kid is Sean, someone I wish you could know better.
And Lord help me. You know that new kid who is"Hot but a stoner"? All the girls are falling all over themselves for him. You know better (because you are my daughter), but he just wants to fit in. You know that he could be so much more. Part of me wants to tell you to stay away, the other part can't because I always hung out with the stoners (less drama). He just wants to fit in and is going about it in all the wrong ways. Don't worry, just like the rest of this ragtag group, he grows up. He becomes an Army Ranger. He just became a daddy (Yes, he still married one of the pretty girls). He may have a crazy, busy life, but he is as loyal as they come. When the world starts crumbling, he is there. He moves mountains to be there for your family. 40 cheeseburgers of mountains. He gets on the floor and plays with your boy like it is the best thing in the world. He is Justin. Yes, your teenager.
Don't forget that quiet boy. The one who sits in class and doesn't say a word? If you are anything like me (so far, poor thing, you are) you are going to gravitate to him. You see that there may be a hurt there. He doesn't say much, because unlike most people, he thinks before he speaks. He is wise beyond his years. There is a strength in the quiet ones. Try, sweet one, to learn from them. You two are so very different and lead very different lives, but he becomes one of the best friends you and your husband ever had. The nights where you are afraid, and your husband is at work, the quiet one will talk to you until your husband gets home. Even if it is just the wind blowing, he holds you up until your husband can take over. He also holds your husband up when you can't. He spends every weekend with your family, being the Uncle to your children, that every kid needs. He has walked through the flames with you. He fights for your marriage (for both sides), when you and your husband feel like there isn't any fight left. That quiet boy is one of the strongest men you will ever meet. He is Bart.
One last one, Sweet Thing, one last boy. That small, loud, feisty boy. I know you can't stand his type. He is always in trouble for cracking jokes. Rumor has it he has slept with every girl in the neighborhood. There are also rumors about drugs you didn't even know existed. He is loud, obnoxious, and overwhelming. It seems like he is always doing something for attention. Yeah, I know the type. All those things are cries for help. Don't worry, this boy also grows up and gave up the "fast, free, fun life" to keep a girl and her son off the street and falls in love. Love is a crazy thing. He fell in love with a girl who hated parties and drugs, so do you know what he did? He quit. He gave up all those things for a girl and her son. He becomes a strong, stable, hard working, deeply loving, loyal, husband and father. He is the most incredible man that I know. Darling, I am honored to tell you that he is your Daddy and he is my hero in so many ways.
Every single one of those men are worth loving. I would be more than thrilled to know that you found someone like any of the men I mentioned above. I have some bad news for you also... most the "hot guys" from high school... Stay the "hot guys from high school". Most of them are stuck in their "glory days". They get fat, drunk, and even more obnoxious. Staying drunk and living in the past is not nice to anyone (another good lesson for you). The point is this... Who you are the first 18 years of your life, does not always define who you will be for the rest of it. Those boys that may not be popular now, will be the ones who make the world amazing.
Yup, 30 is going to be amazing.
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